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If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to fear.

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You hear that all the time.

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If you believe that, then you have either not looked at yourself deeply enough,

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or you have not looked at your relationship to the world around you.

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Let's do that now.

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What do you do when you buy a new shirt at a store you've never been in,

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and you're checking out?

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What do you say to the clerk?

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You might say, beautiful shirt, or thanks for the 10% discount,

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or nice day outside.

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That's it.

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Would you ever say, you know, listen, I had sex with my wife's sister last night,

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and I'm afraid she's going to find out.

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What should I do?

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No, that's insane.

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Why?

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In a relationship of that shallowness, you divulge tiny, the tiniest pieces of,

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yes, I do like the day.

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Do you like the day?

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If you have a casual acquaintance, would you tell them?

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No.

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You would tell them maybe where you worked, what you do, where you lived.

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A close friend?

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Yes, you might.

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Or might not.

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What if you pick up someone at a bar for a one-night stand?

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There are people who do that.

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Would you tell them, for example, I'm married.

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They probably don't care.

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It's a one-night stand.

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Would you tell them, listen, I'm leaving the country in a month, so don't get involved.

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No, absolutely not.

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However, if you see them multiple times, you might want to say, listen, I'm wanted by the police just to let you know.

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Don't get too involved or at your risk.

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No.

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Every relationship in our life has a different set of privacy filters, and it changes with time.

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If everybody, people knew everything about everybody else, we would have riots in the streets, starting with a rash of spousal shootings.

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Please, privacy is the glue that keeps our society sane.

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Think about it, and have a good day.